Popular culture tells us the secret of building an amazing couple is to find the right person. When you say “I Do” the hard work is over and Love will take care of the rest. You set off down the aisle toward your very own “Happily Ever After”. Tragically more than half the time it is not forever, and the more often we walk down that aisle the worse, not better, the odds get. On a potentially more disturbing note, in a recent survey nearly 3 out of 4 men and women surveyed, married over 5 years, said they would not marry the same person again.
So what’s going on here? At Coupling with Awareness we are NOT down on the idea of marriage and commitment, far from it! We believe what is lacking for most people is knowledge, skills, and the commitment to do the hard work that reaps the rewards of lifelong happiness. Not only that, we believe that if you really live these principles, if you commit to holding your relationship sacred, if you make it a point to never stop working on your relationship, the reward is the kind of partnership most people only dream of. We’re talking about the real life version of the Hollywood fairytale ending. Finding the right person, for the right reasons, is an important first step. It lays the foundation for a great relationship, but it is awareness, communication, commitment, patience, acceptance, AND love that build the rest.
There are plenty of counselors, clergy, psychologists, and other helping professionals that specialize in working with couples in crisis (we can even recommend some outstanding ones). We consciously chose NOT to make that our focus. Our focus is on helping couples with good, or “good enough”, relationships co-create GREAT relationships.
The fact is that most of us have had little or no training on how to have a successful relationship. What knowledge, perceptions, and expectations we have come mostly from observing our parents and other early formative relationships. The GREAT news is that it is never too late to learn. We help you practice Awareness in your relationship. Awareness, as in, “to have full consciousness of knowledge gained through one’s own perceptions or by means of information”. We help you learn about each other, and yourself at a deeper level than most couples ever reach. We help you learn skills to communicate with a depth and intimacy you may never have known. We share simple daily strategies for nourishing your relationship, help you see the everyday challenges of a relationship in a new and clearer light. One that will allow you to understand the deeper currents below the obvious surface most people perceive.
Explore the information below to learn more about the different ways we work with clients and scroll down further to learn more about relationship coaching and about the Loving with Awareness
philosophy. We can achieve meaningful results working with only one of the partners, and this is often how we start working with clients. However, the most transformative results are unlocked when both partners commit to the process of their own volition. Sometimes it takes one brave partner to pick up the lamp first, and show the way before the other can CHOOSE
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